June has been a crazy month for me, anyone else experiencing it too? I did not actually do the meditation or the integral assessment because I had just two days to get everything for this week done and I couldn't fit in those two tasks (especially the second one). If I had to guess I would guess my interpersonal relationships would be the first thing worked on. I guess that because I have spent at least a week almost perpetually mad or annoyed at my husband. Mind you I haven't told him that because it would do more harm than good. The stress of my upcoming trip to Utah has taken it's toll on me and today was the worst because of my pre-final preparations. (if pre-final is a new word I claim it)
Don't get me wrong I am looking forward to this trip but getting there and back and leaving my kids with J for half the week is nerve wracking. If any of you are the praying type please pray for their lives and sanity. He is super uptight and they are beautiful messes and it is a recipe for angst for me. Anyways specific exercises I can do to improve my interpersonal relationships would be to talk to the other person, no matter how difficult a task it is. Another thing to do would be to do a modified loving-kindness meditation just focusing on him. I don't know why it gets so hard to love your spouse but here we are. Anyways if you all respond to my discussion posts after tomorrow please don't feel slighted if I don't respond to a question. I will not take my laptop with me as the wi-fi there will be eaten up and I will be exhausted. Have a good week and I'll see you for the tail end of week 7.
I love your honesty! I think those who are closest to us are the ones who can upset us the most and annoy us! We have been extremely busy this month as well (in the process of buying a house) so I can understand what you are going through. Hope you had a great trip and you weren't too stressed about leaving your kids.
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ReplyDeleteWell, I must agree with Lexie on this one, and I also, completely admire and love your honesty! It is so refreshing! In addition, I must say....June has been a terribly crazy month for us as well! I have had kids' birthday parties, trip to Wisconsin Dells for my oldest daughters dance nationals championship finals, another huge gathering at my place for a town festival, and I was working so hard at getting ahead of the game before we took off to Wisconsin Dell's, but have been playing catch up ever since we got back and just can't quite seem to get ahead again! Always a battle! I will say, I can relate to your interpersonal relationship trials, because my husband is usually the one who receives the brunt of things when I am stressed. I try to keep it in as long as I can, but then the beast is unleashed! Lol! He does, for the most part, handle it so well, so I have to admire that about him! I was just talking to my mom about this today, but life, seriously, needs to just slow down! Summers go by so fast, and I have decided that the citizens of Minnesota will probably die younger than those who live in the South because we feel the need to fit 9 month’s worth of activities into about 2 ½ months, and the stress that goes along with that should have us all dying from heart disease by the ripe old age of 45.
Hi Melissa,
ReplyDeleteHope that your trip is going well! I love what you said about your children being "beautiful messes." That's how I think of my kids most of the time.
I think that you chose a great idea for your exercises. Communication is key in every aspect of life, especially relationships. My husband and I separated a few years back and I've done a lot of soul searching on what went wrong. The last couple years before we split, we just stopped talking. I didn't want to say anything to him when things ticked me off because I was afraid he'd get mad, then I'd get bitter. He'd shut me out because he was bitter about other things. After awhile we were just two people who lived in a house together and had nothing to say to eachother. In my current relationship I try very hard to be honest. We have managed to work our relationship to the point where we can say something to the other person without them really taking it personally. Sometimes it's hard to face the realities of my own behavior when he tells me, but we work at things, and I think without that communication we would be done for. I hope that things calm down a bit for you, and I'm the praying type so you will get lots of prayers from me!
~ Sandra
I agree, I do appreciate your honesty! And believe me, me and my fiance go through the same things. Sometimes it feels like the arguing is never going to end, but in the end we do love each other. June has been EXTREMELY busy, I thought it was just me! I find myself rushing to do everything in my life right now. Trying to find a new home, work, school, and just my personal life has been a lot. I think you could probably benefit from some "you time" doing some meditation, or even some yoga when you can squeeze it in. I'm telling you it gives me a huge release when I get to take some time for myself and just breathe! I hope you are enjoying your trip!
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